Why Adoption

Have you ever considered adoption?

Maybe you have thought about it but don’t know where to start, maybe you question if you would make a good adoptive parent or a number of other concerns. I can relate!

It is national adoption month and I want to highlight that and share some reasons why, if you are considering adopting, you should go for it.

 

The Abbreviated version of our story

I had thought about fostering or even adopting off and one most of my life. I have always loved kids. I always wanted a bunch of kids; just never in my wildest dreams hoped for 10. I would not change a thing though. I am so incredibly blessed with every child we have. We are a mixed family, my husband has 3 birth daughter, I have 3 birth sons, and together we have adopted 3 and are in the process of adopting another. We are beyond blessed to have 5 boys and 5 girls. I realize my husband and I could be getting ready to settle into our “golden years”; after all, we raised our family, why not just enjoy or grandchildren and travel. I know this could have been the way that things turned out. The thought has crossed my mind; I never really thought when I was younger that I would be raising children into my 60’s. When I pictured me in my 60’s it was always enjoying my grandchildren and then sending them home. After all, that is the way society states thing should be, right? I fell in love with these children. They needed a family, I was able to be there mommy and I wouldn’t trade sitting in a rocking chair or traveling the country without them for nothing. These babies have changed my life for the better in so many ways that I can’t even describe.

Reasons to Adopt

I know you have heard the slogan “You don’t have to be perfect to be the perfect parent”. That quote can be found at the adoptuskids.org website. If you visit the site you will be able to see that there are currently 28,973 children on the site looking for a forever home. That is amazing to me that we have that many children in the united states that are wanting, waiting, and hoping for a set of parents to call theirs. With the holidays coming up I am sure you’re thinking about getting together with the family; maybe even dreading it, you’re not alone there trust me. For a second though think about those children who are going to age out of the system and not have a family to dread the holidays with.

 

I know for me, I thought sure, I will love any child that comes in my home, but it won’t be like the love I feel for my biological kids. If you have ever thought that let me tell you about my baby boy. Sure, I grew to truly love all 4 of our soon to be adopted children. They grow right in your heart without you even knowing it’s happening.

 

We were getting ready to adopt the 2 we had already had in our home as foster children for the past year and a half. They called me out of the blue for a baby boy. The first thing I said to the caseworker was, another boy, if this was a girl I would say yes in a second. Before you hate me understand that I have never had a baby girl; the girl we were getting ready to adopt was 5 when she came to us. I just wanted the opportunity to raise a baby girl from the beginning. My husband and I talked about it; we conferenced with the agency and finally decided we would take this two-day-old child, but only for a week or two until they found a good loving home. I had to run out and get everything one would need for a baby; after all, I had not had a newborn in my home in 11 years. After running all afternoon, the evening came. He was on his way to us. A young intern walks into our home with a car seat and the most beautiful baby boy you will have ever seen. I took him out of the car seat; he had nothing on but a white t-shirt and diaper. My first thought was this poor baby didn’t have a beautiful outfit for his homecoming like all my babies had. It made me so sad. I held him and immediately felt like he was home, this was my baby. The feelings I had giving birth to my boys and how I felt holding this baby boy, who was not born to me, were so intertwined. He was my baby! He was home. I would never let any harm come to this child. I looked up at the intern and said you go back and tell your boss we are keeping him; don’t look for that forever home.

 

Moral of the story; you will love them. You won’t even realize it has happened until one day you look at them and it occurs to you that this is my child. It may be instant like with my 3-year-old baby boy, or it may be so gradual you don’t realize it’s happening till it has already happened.

 

You have extra room in your home and in your heart

 

Do you have room in your home for more children? That was one of the reasons I decided to start fostering. My home felt empty with only one child living there; after us have 5 kids in our home, and then some with all their friends, at any given moment. If you have the room in your home, why not then. You have nothing to lose, and you and a waiting child have everything to gain!

Here are my 3 adopted children with my youngest biological. These are the some of the faces of adoption. These are 3 of the reasons I get out of bed every morning. These are my babies, my world.

 

 

If you are considering adoption, there are people and places to go if you have questions. You can contact me anytime; I have probably felt or been through what you are feeling or going through.

 

Have a magical day,

Teresa

 

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20 Replies to “Why Adoption”

  1. Your story is so inspiring and beautiful. I have often considered adopting and really feel it in my heart to adopt a cleft affected child (my son was born with a cleft lip and palate so it’s very important to us). I’ve always been afraid of the impact on my 3 biological children, and honestly, just afraid in general. Your story brings me hope and is really pressing me to reevaluate those fears. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Meaghan I am sorry to hear about your son. It really is a life-altering journey when one goes through times like that with a child. I am glad to hear my post touched you. Thanks for the kind words. It is true it can be a tough adjustment on the kids currently in the house, but I feel like my kids have also learned that they are fortunate and there are so many others who really have a very tuff road.

  2. Thank you for this article. You know how sometimes the right articles or books come into your life at just the right time? This was one of those moments for me. I have always felt nudged towards adopting from the time I was child. This was really helpful, and open and honest.

    1. Thank you, Rachel. I know what you mean by the right time. I am so pleased that you were touched by my story. I really struggle to know that I am writing something that has meaning for others, I really want to help others with what I have learned along the way.

  3. This is so inspiring! I love when people can show love and support to children in need ! I admire you. Thank you for sharing.

    1. Thank you, Anissa, for the kind words.

  4. that was a good article to read all the children in this word deserve a family 🙂 thank you for sharing

    1. Thanks for the comment Fatima. Glad you enjoyed it.

  5. I won’t lie but i have constantly thought of this for the past few years now. The wife and I have been together for 11 years now and yet we don’t have any kids. I don’t know if it’s something meant to be but adoption has always been a thought. Your story inspires me now more than ever to go for it…thanks for sharing.

    1. Ken I am glad you got inspiration from my story. Hope you guys do go for it. If you ever have any questions or need support feel free to email me anytime.

  6. I love this post so much, I can tell by reading this that you and your husband are truly special people. So often we hear about horror stories and hear you are doing AMAZING things for these children. Reading what you said about your baby boy brought tears to my eyes, thank you for being some of the good ones in the world ❤️

    1. Thanks so much Brittany. I am so glad to hear this post touched you. So often you aren’t sure if what you have to say will affect someone so it’s reaffirming to hear such positive feedback.Thank you!

  7. This is a valuable article! I don’t want kids on my own but maybe I want to adopt one day. Reading about the topic and individual experiences make me reflect how it would be like. Thank you!

    1. Kathrin, thanks for your comment. I’m so glad you enjoyed this article.

  8. I am really surprised why people are so careful and sometimes even frightened to adop a child and really careless about getting their own. If you love kids, it does not matter where it came from. You will love him or her anyway

    1. So very true Lily! I think from my experience, I know I wasn’t sure after having biological kids how I could possibly love anyone as much as I loved them; the truth is you can. Blood does not make a family.

  9. Thank you for sharing your story. You have a beautiful family! It makes me so happy to know the world still has good humans who are raising more good humans. We desperately need this in our world now and for future generations. Blessings to you and your family!

    1. Thanks for the nice comment. My children are a blessing for sure.

  10. We have three daughters, we tried to adopt a boy but at the last minute, the birth mom decided to keep her baby. It was heart-wrenching and we have not tried again. But I as one who was adopted myself, I am a definite advocate for adoption and try to help others pursue adoption and give babies and children a chance at a wonderful life with loving parents.

    1. Lisa I can imagine the pain you went through to a point. The 3 year only we have we thought at 1 year old we were going to loose him. We both didn’t know how we would make it through the pain but at the last minute she messed up and let him go. We are so truly thankful to his biological parents.

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